June 15th was Father’s Day here in the US and I was exceptionally excited to enjoy my husband who is a great father to our 2 children (sometimes he’s out of town or the country!). I personally enjoy fathers day because its a time in which men are openly celebrated for functioning in the role that only they can function in AND have great impact in.
I believe that men are very special and hold a special place in the heart of God. We know that men are what I call the essential threading in the fabric of society yet in this day and age it seems that fathers and men in general are being subtly dispelled within our society. Many of the movements that have taken place within our cultures are pushing out and watering down the important role of a male figure in the lives of all men, women and children. Somehow we have gotten to a place where men are seen as disposable, if they’re around great if they’re not around whatever. There has been a strategic attack against men that has left us indifferent about their presence and role. I find it sickening and at the same time weakening our societal structure. But we need our men. They cannot be replaced. Their voices in our lives carry a weight so heavy that it can help dictate the course of our lives. The statistics of men, women and children who suffer because they did not have a male influence to guide them or speak words of life and encouragement into their hearts is maddening. I know there are plenty of well meaning single mothers who are doing their best to be a father and a mother it’s not enough. Healthy well balanced developmental within people come from the influence of both a father and a mother. Whether it be the young girl who easily falls into the arms of young guy because he flatters her with empty words just to be used and abused for her body could easily have been guarded against those situations by the loving reassuring voice of positive male influence. She needs to be built up within herself . Have her self-esteem structured by someone who doesn’t want anything from her other than to see her excel. Let’s consider our young men who are constantly seeking out a male figure whether at home, in the streets or on the tv they just want someone who will affirm them and show them the way to go without risk of death and personal and/or moral failure. We need our men. We need that male voice of a father.
Look at the staggering statistics against those who go without a father:
• 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average. • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average. • 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control) • 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26) • 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report) The Father Factor in Education – Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of school. • Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school. • Children with Fathers who are involved are 70% less likely to drop out of school. • Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to get A’s in school. • Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities. • 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average. • 70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988) • 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)
- Daughters of single parents without a father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth, and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves.
- Adolescent girls raised in a 2 parent home with involved fathers are significantly less likely to be sexually active than girls raised without involved fathers.
Of course there are more statistics but I believe you get the point. We cannot sit back and allow our fathers and men to be erased out of the picture. They are loved and needed. Father’s day is an important day due to the lack of recognition men receive in their role as a parent. Don’t let society and the world’s lack luster ideals push out the all important role of a positive male figure.
I speak prophetically when I ask you to do the following: Today make a decision to pray for our men. Pray for our fathers; those who are actively being a father and those who are not. Ask God to tap into their hearts and move them to stand in their rightful place despite the push back they may be experiencing. Pray that our society wake up to the notion that without Fathers and male role models our society will slip into the ranks of nonexistence.
Happy Father’s day today and forever. More grace and peace to every father and future father out there. May your influence permeate the souls and existence of your biological and non-biological children. Amen.